Squirrel’s world is all about playdates right now. Friends coming to our place. Kids begging for her to come over. I love seeing Squirrel light up at these invitations and get that “kids like me!” glow that comes from feeling included. I’m so happy for her that she cares about making and keeping friends. What I don’t love, however, are the pick-up moments an hour later that are inevitably teary, frustrated good-byes after lots of misunderstandings.
For kids who have been adopted, friendship dynamics can be especially tricky. Small moments of rejection from a peer can trigger enormous feelings of hurt and abandonment that are more about losing their birth mothers. Sharing toys kicks up feelings of loss and fear that they’ll never be able to play with the things they love again. Play can be a lot of work!