Posts for pride

When My Daughter Sees Gay Marriage

Love Wins - Allison Kenny - June 14, 2017

When my daughter sees gay marriage

She sees two parents

Kiss every morning

Every night

And really anytime we see each other

Then begs for kisses herself

 

She sees us pay our bills together

Make dinner together

Run our business together

Sing made-up song and laugh about nothing

She sees us go on dates, every week or month

 

She sees us talk it out

When I get triggered

By Lynn’s sarcasm

or she gets frustrated

By how controlling I can be

 

She sees us ask one another for what we need

Set boundaries

Choose self-care

Most of all, she sees how in love two people can be

After 15 years

 

How we put our marriage

First

Before even her needs

Because first, we had each other

Because we want to show her what

Healthy relationships look like

 

When my daughter sees gay marriage,

She sees our marriage

She sees

Love, stability, respect

She sees happy

 

She sees everything

She deserves

 

 

 

 

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Mama, What Does the Waitress Think About Our Family?

Forever Family, Love Wins - Allison Kenny - June 13, 2017

I remember

Sitting

in a frozen yogurt shop

on a hot day

in Oakland.

 

The woman behind the counter

(a Wonderland of fruit and candy toppings)

kept smiling at us.

 

We get a lot of smiles.

3 beauties with skin

different shades

laughing loud,

holding hands,

singing songs

in public.

 

“Mamas, does the waitress think one of you are my Auntie?”

“I don’t know, Babe. How come?”

“Maybe, she never heard of a family with two Mamas before.”

“Oh…maybe.”

 

We went right back to singing.

 

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She Calls Me Mama A

Forever Family, Love Wins - Allison Kenny - June 12, 2017

They Want to Know-

Those Mom and Dad families

Feeling Curious

Wondering

Imagining

What Family is Like

When the Labels

Don’t Fit

When the Boxes

Aren’t Checked

Mom and Dad Families

Wonder

 

Who Takes Out the Trash?

And Who Does

Her Hair?

Who Can She Tell Her Secrets To?

And Who Cares For Her When She’s Sick?

 

How Many Moms Do You Have?

Kids At School Wanna Know

Two

She Says

Lucky!

Kids Know

What’s Up

They Know Love Wins and Would Never

Vote Otherwise

 

Mom and Dad Families

Have Questions

The Big One

The One They Ask

Most

Is

What Does She Call You?

 

What is the Name for

Families Like Mine

The Name is Yes

The Name is

Respect Our Rights

The Name is Equal

The Name is Awesome

The Name is Love

 

Also, I’m So Happy To Tell You

To Help You Picture Us

Families Like Mine

Beautiful

Real

As Important As Your Family

I’m So Happy to Tell You

 

She Calls Me

Mama A

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Proud Family

Gay Parenting, Love Wins, Parenting - Allison Kenny - June 26, 2016

How are you celebrating Pride with your family today? We’re keeping in simple- watching the SF parade on tv, dinner with fabulous gay friends and their kid, rainbow gear and THIS BOOK. Right now, Squirrel tells her friends “Pride is celebrating families with 2 moms or 2 dads.” Hoping to dig into this LGBTQ book list this month and round out her answer a little more.

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Can’t help feeling like in the wake of such hate in the Orlando shooting, being ourselves as a queer family is a radical act. Here’s to being loud, proud and queer this June.

One more thing we did as part of Pride- donated to Equality Orlando. Love to hear what actions you are taking to heal your hearts, take care and offer hope…

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10th Anniversary

Love Wins - Allison Kenny - June 25, 2016

Ten years ago today

Our nieces & nephews sang

L is for the way you

Look at me

O is for the only one I see

V is very very extraordinary

E is even more than anyone that you adore

 

Ten years ago today

We promised to be ourselves and

Love each other

At the same time

To strive for

Interdependence

 

We danced on Pride Sunday

We ate BBQ in retro dresses

We produced our wedding TA-DAH  in the

Women’s Building

With so much help from family & friends

We flew to France and took centerstage

Before finding respite in each other’s arms

In that heat wave

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Ten years ago today

We didn’t know what was coming

The cervical cancer

Or memories of early abuse

The way our business would grow

Or who our daughter would be

 

We didn’t know

That gay marriage would become legal

Or that Black and Queer sanctuaries would get

Shot up

And how we’d all grieve

Our sense of safety

Shattered

Our connection

Deeper

 

Ten years ago today

We didn’t know that

Our marriage would be a sturdy

Tether

As the ground shook beneath us

 

We didn’t know how many divorces

We’d see around us

We didn’t know how deep and wide

Our love could

Stretch

 

That our roots would intertwine

Like a redwood grove

How we’d hold each other

Up

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How we’d make each other laugh

How we’d uphold those promises

Those vows

How our words would come alive

In action

How we’d make

LOVE

A verb.

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