How do you respond when your daughter says, “a boy at school called our teacher fat. I NEVER want to be too fat!”
There are so many problems with that sentence. Of course we don’t know the factual details of what went down- we are only getting a glimpse. But let’s say that’s exactly what happened. 3 reasons that sentence at the dinner table made my skin crawl and my heart ache.
- that a young boy would body shame an adult female teacher
- that the word “fat” is being hurled as an insult at all
- that my chronically underweight first grade daughter is afraid of being “fat” (or more accurately, afraid of being teased by boys for being “fat”)
There is one big reason my daughter’s story made me feel hopeful, though. Empowered even. And that’s that after 8 years of struggling with my own disordered eating, body shame and fat fears, I get to respond from a place of fierce compassion and share what I know to be true. Continue Reading